My children are no longer babes. Yet they need me to love them as if they are. Wholly. Unconditionally. Without judgement. To marvel at the miracle that is them. And to lean into that connection. Knowing it is strong, unbreakable and alive. 

Even though your children are no longer little, they need you to love them as deeply and as fully  today as you loved them at the moment they were born.

Being a parent means leaning into that love; knowing it is there as a safety net to catch you as you give yourself fully, wholly and unconditionally to a part of your being that is no longer a part of you.

Loving without adding your opinions. How often do we do that to our children? We stuff them with unsolicited advice, adding our opinions to their actions and behaviours. We don’t enjoy the opinions of others being dropped on us, so why do we think it’s okay to dump our opinions onto our kids?

Why do we do that shit? Do we really believe a good parent is defined by how well our children behave, how successful they are? They are a reflection of us. We are a reflection of them. How they are judged, we are judged. We have this crazy idea; what other people think of our kids is what they also think of the job we have done as parents and therefore who we are as a person.

“Making the decision to have a child is momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”

Elizabeth Stone – teacher & author

Take off your expectations and lean into love. Remember the love in the past. Imagine the love in the future. And do it. Let go of the expectations. Know they will love you back. They’re hard wired to do it. And they get that gift from you.

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