These wero, these challenges, that our rangatahi bring us are powerful learning experiences that can bring change not just in our families but in so many other areas of our lives.
Someone very clever once said, “They won’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”
The bench is left messy. We’ve had a conversation in which we agreed that the bench needs to be left tidy. After our initial conversation, things were good for a while, but the next week we’re back to the bench being left. It’s still messy!
When you have clear boundaries, everyone knows where they stand. You end up with much more energy for the things that matter more to you in life.
As an antidote to overwhelm, disappointment and bitterness I’d like to offer you some wisdom from the law of GOYA.
You are their parent. It is your choice. And it is ok to hold your boundaries.
I totally recommend considering Beautiful Conversations to people wanting to up-skill when communicating and connecting with their teens and other important people in their lives. Melanie is upbeat, insightful and compassionate, while also clear, calm and relaxed. She provided an atmosphere of trust and companionship which allowed our small group to easily share and explore feelings and ideas. I felt fully supported and through the regular sessions developed new insights into the thoughts and feelings behind my behaviour, together with practical tools for parenting with confidence that I'm heading in the right direction, that little by little change can start to happen and new habits can be formed. Loved it!