Parenting Adolescents Archives

These wero, these challenges, that our rangatahi bring us are powerful learning experiences that can bring change not just in our families but in so many other areas of our lives. 

The bench is left messy. We’ve had a conversation in which we agreed that the bench needs to be left tidy. After our initial conversation, things were good for a while, but the next week we’re back to the bench being left. It’s still messy! 

As an antidote to overwhelm, disappointment and bitterness I’d like to offer you some wisdom from the law of GOYA. 

You are their parent. It is your choice. And it is ok to hold your boundaries.

While a house has physical walls and door locks, a home has value-based boundaries. 

Being this person, the one who says, “This ain’t working” doesn’t make you wrong. It makes you brave. Brave enough to put a line firmly in the sand, stand on it with your hands on your hips and say, “Taihoa. Enough.”