There are as many ways to be ready for exams as there are learning styles – for more on learning styles, read this blog from last week. 

When it comes to finding the time to study, some rangatahi will want to study and others won’t. 

The reason for this difference is easy – some young people value exams and the results they hope to achieve, and others don’t. 

The things we value are the things we prioritise. 

For your rangatahi who are ready to put the mahi into their exams, study planning will be a useful tool. 

Using their google calendar they can block out available time and set intentions for the work they will cover. Now is a good time to get them working this out so they’re not caught out by the sudden arrival of exams and the stress this may lead to them experiencing.

At this time of year they will appreciate thinking about:

✅ Completing the final assignments that are due.

✅ Blocking out time for study AND time for chilling.

✅ Setting goals for their exams.

✅ Nominating an accountability coach who will work alongside them, providing nutritious snacks, and motivational encouragement while keeping them on track.

The actual structure of their study time is not a one-size fits all scenario. Let them nominate the times that work best for them, and simply ensure they fit their sleep requirements into their timetable so they are able to support their brains to work at their optimal setting. 

Also helping brains work best are the daily practices of:

  • Hydration, at least 8 glasses of water every day.
  • Daily exercise, 20 minutes of something they enjoy.
  • Sunlight, (without sunglasses) for 20 minutes to reset their body clocks. 

Then … let them get on with it.

For your rangatahi who are NOT interested to put the mahi into their exams, this is an opportunity for a beautiful conversation.

Make time to chat with them about what’s going on for them. Leaving all your expectations safely and securely locked away in a box in your brain … be curious. 

  1. Ask: “Tell me what’s going on for you when it comes to school?” 
  2. Listen Actively: “I hear you saying that ….(repeat back their main theme)”
  3. Wait for them to acknowledge you understand what they are telling you. This may take a bit of back-and-forth discussion, and that’s ok. What is critically important at this point is for them to feel heard without being judged. 
  4. Use your new-found insights to make a new way forward. A way forward that you both buy into. 

For some of our rangatahi, the road to success in life doesn’t necessarily go through school in the way it used to when we were adolescents. 

Knowing their parents see them, hear them and acknowledge them no matter where they are in their journey through life makes an enormous difference to every adolescent. 

For parents who are ready to have a deeper, robust connection with the rangatahi in their life, get in touch.