The world our adolescents are inheriting has changed drastically from the world in which we were teenagers.
The things we found rough are still there: hormonal changes, peer pressure, social relationships, bullies, learning to drive, parents and boundaries to push against, having no clue what to do with our lives, learning about sex, first love, figuring out drinking, and drugs. The decisions to be made felt enormous and the pressure was intense. Somehow, most of usl got through ok. Because, here we are, parenting our teenagers now. Some of whom seem to have been five-going-on-twenty for a very long time!
Today’s adolescents (that’s ages 9 through to 25) are also facing every single thing we faced back-in-the-day. And as well, they also have extra issues to face that we never considered:
- Sexuality and identity. The range of options is enormous.
- The consequences of device use from a young age. Devices have changed the way we relate to each other and our relationships.
- Bullying. Is no longer something that is left at the school gates.
- The environment. It’s not an inexhaustible supply. The issues around sustainability are real, and the consequences are enormous.
- The rising cost of housing and personal debt that is putting house ownership out of reach for many adolescents.
- Coronavirus. That pesky virus that has adolescents restricted to homes with their parents at the exact time they are biologically programmed to be moving away from their parents. Not to mention the question mark that hangs over the O.E. – a rite of passage for so many of our generation.
Your teenager may well be giving you a hard time. That’ll be because they’re having a hard time. Teenxiety is a thing. It’s that perfect wave of adolescent change, all rolled into a super sized tangle.
The way we’ve been parenting our adolescents is loosely based on the ways in which we were parented. However, the world has changed. Our parenting can take one giant step forward and keep up too. It’s simply not acceptable to me that our teens are choosing suicide as an option. Let’s get real about this.
The leading cause of death in the age range of 15 – 19 is suicide. This statistic breaks my heart. So many of our adolescents are simply not coping. We can do better. We must do better when it comes to supporting our rangitahi to have healthy, happy and productive lives.
Getting through teenxiety needs new parenting knowledge. There is no way around it. Teenxiety is well out of our zone of knowledge in order to know what we’re about. I have made an online course ‘Anxiety to Depression Bootcamp’ that will walk you through the steps we took to turn my daughter’s depression and anxiety around. This course is suitable for parents of teenagers who have had an official diagnosis of anxiety or depression. It’s all the things that worked for us and it will give you everything you need to get started.
If your adolescent is simply being a ‘normal’ teenager, then ‘Teen Talk’ will be your main tool. Teen Talk teaches parents how to change the way in which they communicate with their adolescents. It’s an essential upgrade to your parenting toolkit.
As one of my clients said, “Knowledge is empowering. Thanks for opening up new horizons.” E.V.B.