You may be going through life completely, blissfully, unaware of the impact of your words, and the way in which these little things that fall out of your mouth affect those around you. 

You may even wonder why your words no longer cover the gaps that have appeared in your life. 

You have adolescents in your life who you love. Deeply. 

You have family, friends, and a partner. And yet you crave intimacy. 

This post is for you.

Our words are our wands. The magic they create (or don’t create) is up to us. 

If you are not creating the life you want, think about the words you are using. 

Do you hide your expectations behind HOPE and TRY? These two words offer us the best outs available in the English language. How often do they pop out of your mouth? Take a moment to think about the difference between “I hope so,” versus “I expect so.” The hope-so version leaves life to chance, while the expect-so version paints a far more definite picture. And the difference between “I will try,” versus “I will do” is vast. The try version implies an element of effort that may or may not result in any achievement, whereas the do version implies success. 

Changing the way we speak about ourselves and to others is hard work. These patterns of speech are often out of our mouths before we realise we’ve said them. Often we don’t even notice!

If you are ready to change the way you bring your expectations to fruition, take two pieces of paper. On one write hope and on the other write try. For one day, add a tally mark every time you use the word. 

At the end of the week, have a look at your score:

  • 0 or 1 = rock on with your bad self
  • 2 – 5 = some improvement needed, but doing ok
  • Over 5 = well done on being honest. Now, whatcha gonna do bout it? 

Your choice – same old same old, OR time for a change?

If change is your choice, click here to find out how I can guide you.