A thought about goal setting:
We are powerful role models for our tweens, teens, and adolescents. If we want them to persevere at goal setting, we need to be able to guide them AND show them.
Actions speak louder than words.
Setting a joint goal can be a brilliant parenting tool.
It’s genius because:
- You talk about setting the goal before you set it. A joint goal has a clear why that you’ve spent time deciding on so you know if this is what you really want before you get started.
- Joint goals come with built-in accountability partners – another person who is equally as invested in a successful outcome and often just as committed to the practice and hard work as you are.
Think how much easier it is for two people to achieve their goals by working together.
You’re both far more likely to dedicate the time to your goals when you know:
- You’re both doing the same thing
- It’s a small daily action
- Taking the time now will add up over the year
Our rangatahi are much more likely to be invested in a goal if they see us modeling behaviours and attitudes that are achievement focused for them.
And for parents, even knowing your teen is watching you can be an incentive to get yourself moving. By role modeling to them what commitment looks like you’re giving them a skill they will be able to return to, it’s your daily actions and attitude that count on two fronts – getting started and continuing.
Success is the sum of our thoughts, words, and habits. Success is a daily game. I encourage you to stop and think about what you’d like to achieve in the remainder of this year that will make a difference in your life going forward.
Then join forces with your teen to make it happen, not just for you but for them too. Your achievements will be twice as nice.
If you’d like guidance getting started, book a time to kōrerō with me. Working with parents and their rangatahi is my jamm, and I know that together, you can achieve so much more.