It’s been three years since the day we hit rock bottom. That was the day my eldest daughter, aged 17, chose to attempt to end her life. She was unsuccessful.
And now it’s been three years since a more important day – the day after. Yes, we’d hit rock bottom, and she chose not to stay there. She decided the only way out was up.
In the past three years we have covered an enormous amount of ground. The challenges haven’t stopped. What’s changed is the way we approach them.
We’ve learnt:
- You can think life is over and find out it’s not.
- Ignore the end goal and concentrate on the next goal. Do this often enough and you find yourself at the end goal. Overwhelm is unnecessary.
- Listen to your nudges and use them to guide you.
- Things are always happening for you.
- Everyday there is a gift for you. It’s up to you to find it.
Three years ago I would have been in disbelief at where we have ended up. Life has taken so many unexpected twists and turns and it’s still working out.
Know, from someone who’s been there, that you don’t need to know the answers. The best support you can be for your adolescent is to be there for them. No ifs. No buts. No conditions. To meet them where they are. Accept them. Love them. And guide them as much, or as little, as they’ll let you.
As their parent, you are in the position to take them from a place of ‘survive’ to a place of thrive. Your support, your attitude and your guidance will make a world of difference.
If you are wondering about the next step to take to support your adolescent’s mental wellness, book a call with me. Together we’ll get you started.